Ive been thinking this evening about the ebb and flow of a scene, although I suppose these thoughts could apply to BDSM relationships in general.
I will tie you down and own your holes until I send your fucking mind and body to sub-space. You challenged me, slut. Challenge fucking accepted. Now feel your mind scramble and slip away as I own you so fucking thoroughly you have no other fucking choice than to just mentally escape.
Inconsistency - If a dominant is inconsistent in applying and checking up on his or her rules, it makes the submissive not know whether to bother following them or not, and if he or she is inconsistent in their expectations of the sub, the way they treat him or her, and how they apply their dominance, it is very unsettling for the sub, and he or she cannot possibly grow or flourish in such a relationship.
Apathy - if a dominant does tumblr dominant care much about his or her sub or their relationship, they are not going to invest the large amounts of time and energy that power-exchange dynamics need to thrive. Violence - I am talking about the more abusive type of action where a dominant lashes out whenever he or she becomes angry, and takes his or her rage out on a sub in a physical manner, acting in an uncontrolled way during scenes, causes harm and lasting damage to the sub as a result, and uses their power to intimidate and beat down rather than to control in a consensual manner.
It is a difficult line to describe, but i know it is there and i hope that others understand the point I am trying to make. Arrogance - I think there is a big difference between confidence and arrogance, and too much arrogance can be dangerous in a power-exchange relationship, as it can make the dominant believe he or she is invincible, and that they can do anything they like, and that he or she is the only person that matters; that it should be all about him or her.
Ultimately, it can make him or her blame the sub for their own mistakes, neglect their needs entirely, attempt things he or she really is not capable of or competent at, putting the sub at real risk, and turn into the type of person that nobody respects or likes or wants to be around, let alone have a relationship.
I think a good dominant needs to keep a tight rein on his or her arrogance, and not let it become too much. Posts Likes Archive.
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